The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.Osho (via psych-facts)
Power feminism is just another scam in which women get to play patriarchs and pretend that the power we seek and gain liberates us.
Let’s talk about this quote for a second.
I remember I attended a college lecture about what feminism means in America and how imperial politics and economic gaps between the West and East render what women want and consider pivotal to their feminism as conflicting and even antagonistic to each other.
My feminism, first and foremost, will always be anti-imperialism.
Imperial politics are dangerous and the very essence of narcissism. Imperial politics demonstrated within a feminist frame usually goes as follows: the most privileged women, ie. those who have access to technology, representation, occupy a particular media-friendly image or ideology and have access to those in higher slots in society are allotted platforms to speak about their experiences as women and without question, this gets presumptuously labelled “women’s experiences”. Being that women who are globally bestowed the highest tier are usually allowed such room to speak, their minimal struggles are then homogenized as the quintessential female experience and misogyny is wholeheartedly announced a tangible issue that can be easily eradicated out of modern Western society.
Its no accident that women of color, women in occupied regions and those who face mass political or economic repression and their words which don’t satisfy neoliberal, imperialist gaze are deemed anti-progressive, race baiters, backwards, terrorist apologists, etc. Our complex, multi-faceted struggles within a white supremacist empire tap into too many accepted status quos for the average American moderate. It forces those who legitimize the war on terror and view racism as an entity of the past to confront their own unsightly prejudices and the systematic brutality their nations enacts on various global societies, as well as within its borders. Its easier to find (and fabricate) any reason to demonize the likes of Trayvon Martin and his family for his own tragic demise or deem young Yemeni children necessary collateral damage for “the greater good” than to examine what other oppressions beyond misogyny exist that unquestionably burden the lives of otherized communities, including and especially the women in said communities.
Power feminism expects women to unanimously rejoice in the presidential election of Hillary Clinton, while her administration carries out the same murderous policies as her predecessors. Power feminism labels any legitimate criticism of influential women as inherent egregious misogyny. Power feminism devalues the loss of women’s lives abroad, while infantizling their independent resistance and stripping their agency by shamelessly declaring intervention as saving them. Power feminism within an imperialistic frame needs the hyper-demonization of otherized communities to justify its occupation. Power feminism can be even more dangerous than ruthless misogyny because of its insidious nature and lack of culpability.
THIS POST IS GOLDEN (via wocinsolidarity)
- requiesromantic: limited or no romantic attraction/interest/activity due to some form of emotional exhaustion. Emotional exhaustion may be the result of previous romantic endeavours and past experiences dealing with romance, or from something else just as emotionally draining.
- requiessexual: limited or no sexual attraction/interest/activity due to some form of emotional exhaustion. Emotional exhaustion may be the result of previous sexual endeavours and past experiences dealing with sex, or from something else just as emotionally draining.
coined by: dragonkisser
Today, I’m featuring a guest post from Maureen Farrell Garcia, a woman who has been researching the grooming techniques of sex offenders for years. (via diannaeanderson)
A common tactic of sex offenders is the manipulation of the love of their victims through presenting themselves as the real victims who should be pitied.
Through presenting females as the ones responsible for males’ impurity, Purity culture presents men as the “real” victims. Males are referred to as “weaker” because of their “visual” and “sexual” nature. They are victims of their hormones, sexualized media, female bodies, women’s clothing choices and desires. Women are admonished to care for their weaker brothers by restricting their freedom to dress in ways they desire.
Women are conditioned to be other-aware instead of self-aware. They are encouraged to always consider men before themselves. This is presented as a female manifestation of godly love but it is really a manifestation of the belief that women do not matter as much as men. We were designed to please and serve men. These are dangerous beliefs that sex offenders exploit and they have real consequences.